How To Impress An “Eagle” Of A Coach
An Eagle’s “Hot button” is proper order. So take off your backwards hat, tuck in your shirt, and have your thoughts organized before you show up to a meeting with an Eagle. Oh, and most importantly, show up on time to really impress an Eagle.
The Eagle is the Responsible Athlete. They are organized, traditional, and cooperative. They will value tradition and rules and will want their program to run as a well-oiled machine. So if you’re a player on an Eagle’s team, that means doing your part to make sure things run smoothly.
As a Maverick, I know that if I want to get along with an Eagle I might want to prioritize values that may not come natural to me. For instance, it’s easy to make an effort to be a bit more neat and tidy around an Eagle. It’s easy to respect an Eagles traditions and rituals. It’s easy to pass when you’re enticed to debate an Eagle, you know, just for fun.
It’s a good thing that us Mavericks are adaptable. And it’s also a good thing that Eagles are cooperative―when they see others making an effort, they tend to reciprocate in kind. It takes all types to make the world go round, and it’s always a good idea to do the little things that might not make a difference to you if they a fellow human smile.
Steven Pink, in his book, To Sell is Human, lays out his ABCs of moving people to see our point of view (that sure sounds better than selling!):
- A – Attunement: The ability to bring one’s actions and outlook into harmony with other people.
- B – Buoyancy: The ability to stay afloat amid the ocean of rejection (stay confident).
- C – Clarity: The ability to summarize your pitch in the restraint of a tweet. (Can you say it in 140-280 characters?)
Today we will focus on “A,” Attuning ourselves to our Eagle coach.
The keys to attuning yourself with another person (and giving yourself an opportunity to be heard
- Be humble. Easier said than done, but at times, each one of us needs to be told to get off our high horse! We must realize that no one is better or worse than anyone else. We all have the same goal of being happy. Show everyone respect.
- Step into their shoes. Try to imagine what your coach/teammate/friend is thinking. Realize it’s NEVER about you. Listen before you talk. Ask questions. Think, “What is your coaches purpose for the conversation?” Connection? Teaching? Feeling like they were heard? Only after you’ve considered this, speak or react.
- Mirror your coach’s behavior. People like people that are like them. Learn more about the Eagles preferences. Don’t go overboard, but do put your best foot forward by using similar language and energy.
Remember: If we want to get along with people with personalities that differ from our own, let’s practice these easy steps to attune to those our teammates and coaches.